Beyond the Stereotype | Where The Boys Are, A Memory Keeping Revolution

Boys are only wrestling, trucks, sports, and super heroes - right? Most of the time when I tell someone I have all boys they assume my house is full of wild ruckus around the clock. And certainly there are days that I believe that can be the only truth. But, it's not. 

There are also moments, if not days, that the little men in our lives show us their other side - the quiet, the shy, the sensitive, the imaginative, the still. The truth is they are both. The truth is boys live beyond the stereotypes that society tries to box them into.  

Recently Lisa & I recorded an episode of the Paperclipping Roundtable dedicated to this project. The Paperclipping Roundtable is a scrapbooking podcast that discusses a variety of topics related to memory keeping. Even if you are not a scrapbooker by photographing your boys you are their memory keeper.

Lisa and I discussed in depth with our host Noell the challenges we face in capturing our boys as they grow older and how we look past the stereotypes in both capturing and documenting them. Our hope in recording the episode was that you would be inspired to pick up your camera and see your boys for all that they have to offer. 

We would love to hear what you think and encourage you to comment here or on Facebook. We would also love to continue to see your boys in our Flickr group and under the hashtag #wheretheboysareproject on Instagram. 

We receive a lot of questions on how to contribute and Flickr is by far the best way to share with this group. In only three months we've had almost 600 images shared in our group and there is some beautiful work there. Thank you to those of you who are sharing your life with us.

I couldn't help but pull this from our Flickr gallery this morning. Yes, a little boy loves robots but he also helped craft his costume. Boys living beyond the stereotypes.....

Make sure you check out Little Story Studio's Flickr feed here! I am immediately drawn to the storytelling in her images. 

And now, welcome to the first installment of our November collaborative share where we invite Summer Kellogg to join us in telling our story. We hope that sharing our story inspires you to share yours. 

Here we go......

Some moments do not need words.  I’ll only say this—I am so proud of who you are and who you are becoming. - Summer Kellogg

I hear myself repeating words I’ve spoken so many times to your brother. It’s a blessing to feel things so deeply. But there will be days—so many days—that it feels more like a curse. - Amy Drucker

Isn't it funny how he looks so small in person and so much more grown in pictures?  Or is that mommy-goggles? (I asked your Dad).  To which he replied "No.  I agree". 

I think part of loving someone might just involve a touch of absolute denial.  No matter how big you get.  You will always be our baby. - Amy Bernard

This week I have been pelted in the head, sniped in the back, and shot at the ankle with this darn gun.  But he has a way about him that quite frankly, that I never seem to mind… - Krista Resnick

An artist.  A perfectionist.  Every detail must be exactly right.  It keeps you from trying so many things.  I was thrilled to see you at the table creating... and not tossing out the end result.  I see so much of myself in this side of you, and wish I were better at helping you move past it to a place where you can accept the imperfections and just enjoy the process of creating.  There's alot inside of you that you keep bottled up, like a deep well.  When I see you let go just a little bit, I want to freeze that moment because for that time, your world isn't so heavy. - Abbi Ottman

“... there had been the two little boys. Now they were gone, too. They loved her and called her and sent her e-mails and would still snuggle up to her to be petted when they were in the mood, but they were men, and though they would always be at the center of her life, she was no longer at the center of theirs.”

― Cathleen Schine, The Three Weissmanns of Westport 

Yes, I know the day will come. Until then, I will cherish your boyhood in a way that will prepare you for manhood. - Janielle Granstaff

It doesn't matter what it is. A toy gun, a broomstick, a roll of wrapping paper or a hose and nozzle, boys will be boys I guess! - Anna Bein

"There is someone who has my heart. Their smile makes my day. Their laughter is like sunshine to me. Their happiness brings me happiness. My child."

- Nishan Panwar -