I wish...

I could get my shit together. Sorry to [potentially] offend but you see I wear this bracelet everyday and imprinted inside it says "I choose authenticity" and it's hard for me to come into this space and not be myself. So there you have it. 

 A few months ago my 10 year old said to me "It's about progress, not perfection. Right Mom?" Why is it so easy to affirm him, to celebrate this in him but when it comes to my own short comings still hold myself to a standard of perfection? 

Despite all of my best intentions I am overcomitted and I dropped the ball over here by missing the March post. I could continue to berate myself for not being perfect, for not effortlessly keeping all my balls in the air but to be honest that is the easy way out. The only way I make progress is to show up in this space, just do the work and commit to doing better.  So here I am. Progress, not perfection. 

We have some exciting changes coming soon and as soon as it all gets worked out I'll be back to share. Until then welcome to our March/April collaborative post. We hope that sharing our story inspires you to share yours. 

Here we go......

Sometimes it's the small and quiet moments that are the most fulfilling.  Watching you color and draw with all of your concentration and energy aimed at one piece of paper always amazes me.  Seeing you like this is so different than what you are most of the time: a rambunctious, wild little boy. - Amanda Caves

So surprised to find myself lamenting the passing of time. But the weight of knowing you’ll never fall asleep in my arms again seems too much to bear right now. - Amy Drucker

Before we left, I worried that traveling alone with you might be difficult. I thought maybe we would tire of each other’s company, or that I would need some time alone. As it turned out, though, I couldn’t have been more wrong. Every moment of our trip was magical. To see you reclaim your joy and relax into yourself was transformative. To experience your happiness, when it’s unbridled like that, is the purest form of joy I’ve known as a mother.  - Amy Drucker

I should know better. I should know not to say ‘give me a smile’! But this is you. This is how you are when you’re enjoying life around you and every time I see this little face, it makes me smile inside and out.  - Anna Bein

Oh how I love your exploring natures...  You’re never content to just stroll along and look.  Oh no.  You have to be one with the dune.  To wriggle the sand into every crevasse.  To have the grains rain down on your hair.  To experience the texture for yourself.  Is it soft, is it crusty, is it hot, is it cold.  Pulling down grasses, plucking burrs out of each other’s feet.  On every walk, thank you for reminding me how wonderful it is to be a part of the earth. - Ann Woodard

 “ There’s no other love like the love for a brother. There’s no other love like the love from a brother.” – Astrid Alauda

As a boy Mom I’ve gotten very good at saying things like:

 

I just don’t get it.

Someone is going to get hurt.

When you get to a Save Point, feed the dog.

You can’t fart on people.  It’s rude.  Why?  Cause it is!

Just don’t shoot him in the face.

 

- Erika Ray

Though you guys can fight nonstop and know just what buttons to push with each other, I also see an amazing friendship developing between you two.  You are both more adventurous when you’re together and come up with the most creative games to play.  No hill is too big to climb with your brother by your side. - Heather Reagan

"You have brains in your head.

You have feet in your shoes.

You can steer yourself

any direction you choose.

You're on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the guy who'll decide where to go."

-Dr Seuss, "Oh, The Places You'll Go!"

My wish for you is no matter where you go, or who you're with, or what you do, that you tackle it together. With the same intensity, brotherhood, and enthusiasm as the day you were children conquering waves. - Janielle Granstaff

I debated whether to leave this photo in color. In the end I decided that it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter what flavor of candy or cake or ice cream or yogurt covers your mouth. The sweetest thing here for me is your smile.  That's what's important for me to remember. - Janielle Granstaff

We swish heavy boots through the remaining inches of winter, our warm chatter dripping off evergreen tips. We don’t concern ourselves with the cocooning icy months behind us, nor with dreaming of kayaking through lazy summer days. While a single robin does give us pause, we mostly search for sticks, tread paths, poke snowy lumps, and hurdle the fallen storm trees.  It amazes me how you’re so utterly content with the present, and I yearn to be like you.  - Jen Lucas

I'm not one of those Mama's that shy away from running errands with all three in tow. So when the store is a little busier than usual and the three of you are just a smidgen out of control playing super spy between racks I send you all to the window. Out enough of everyone's way but one quick glance up and I can make sure you aren't scaling the windows. This is what shopping with boys looks like. - Monica McNeill

There is no other place I would rather be than watching the sun bathe my boys. The last few hours of the day after a long day of work are among the ones I count as my favorite. - Monica McNeill

I see you change everyday, and as I discover your little ways, I can see you growing so quickly....I love the way you stand with your hands in your pockets, something you have just started to do...you stand proud overlooking the work in the garden you have just accomplished...just like your dad! - Sarah Roberts

This is my wish for you: be a team. For the rest of your lives. - Linda Barber