So Good | Where The Boys Are, A Memory Keeping Revolution


Can I just say it? This project is SO GOOD.

I was pulling together the contributor images and words for this month and the sentiment SO GOOD was reverberating in my bones. 

You know, when you feel something in your bones? 

What gets me in my bones is the realness, the rawness, the reverence we all share here about our walk (and theirs) on this journey of raising men. Whether they are little, or almost grown or somewhere in between that is what we are all doing, raising men.

For me, at times, being the only one without the ability to pee anywhere I please can feel a little bit lonely but then I come here and I know I'm not alone. SO GOOD. 

Welcome to our March collaborative post. We hope that sharing our story inspires you to share yours. 

Here we go......


If I close my eyes will it stop? You know, the whole growing up thing that is happening right in front of my face every time I look at you?! The last 2 weeks have been a whirlwind, everything happening at once! Which is kind of fun and awesome but sometimes I wish I could just call a time out, you know?

So the last couple weeks your dad has taught you how to shave, he’s taken you out to practice driving, he’s taught you how to use his power tools and put you to work repairing our fence and I’ve taken you to get your driving permit. I’m pretty sure it was just yesterday that your dad was teaching you how to ride a bike and throw a baseball and I was making sure you were safe while crossing the street.

Not only do I feel privileged to get to witness these moments of you learning and becoming but I get to watch your father doing his thing as well....helping to guide you along the path to manhood, and that makes me all the more grateful. You might not realize it now but you scored big with the man you call dad. That fact alone helps me to know that you are going to be just fine on this journey.

And as much as I’d really like to call a time out, I’m actually on the edge of my seat with excitement for you for whatever is next. - Juli Jones

For all the times you guys fight, there are also times like this where you play so well together and find comfort in each other’s presence.  And it melts my heart every time I manage to catch these sweet moments. - Heather Reagan

You are not a morning person that’s for sure. I’ve learned it’s best not to talk to you too much in the mornings until you’ve well and truly woken up. I think this picture sums it up nicely. - Anna Bein

“If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away.” ~Henry David Thoreau

“Remember, a dead fish can float downstream, but it takes a live one to swim upstream.”  ~ W.C. Fields

You, my son, are an interesting combination of both these ideas.  Sometimes I think you revel in the conflict that arises from your “offbeat”.  And sometimes I think the loneliness and the being misunderstood are palpably painful.  I pray that as you grow and mature and acquire ever more wisdom that you will find a way to be contra mundum with grace and wit and clarity.  May your written words someday positively and powerfully impact this world of ours for good. - Susan Keller

My eldest...I can't believe how quickly you are growing! With each day comes a new challenge, I know that I only have a little time left with you before you enter that big wide world on your own.  I am holding onto you and onto each memory you make for me to treasure... - Sarah Roberts

Most days getting ready for school is a military operation, one of precision, with little time to go “off plan”. This day though, things were a little different. Today we seemed to have time to spare and Instead of me whizzing round like a whirlwind, we had time…. Time to get out the newly purchased “Where’s Wally” book from the day before’s school book fair. You’d finished your breakfast before pulling out your new book and started searching out the little guy in stripes and his trusty pal “Woof”. - Nina Callow

Even when our days are rough, we’re together. You both are my everything. We’re each others’ everything. Today, I needed a hug. I really big hug, full of lots of love. I didn’t even have to ask. You were both there in a second, and it made my heart lighter. True Love.  - Kelly Sutton

After being without a pet for nearly 4 years, we made the decision to add a kitten to our family.  I wasn’t sure how you two would do with a cat, or how the cat would do with you two, but surprisingly, he seems to have fit into our family like a new little brother.  And for that I’m thankful. - Donya Gjerdingen

With sleeves pushed up and determination at the helm, citrus notes begin to fill the room. A basketball rhythmically strikes the driveway and bike bells chime on the sidewalk. And yet our light chatter about school, comic books, silly jokes has seemingly insulated those cheerful, beckoning outside sounds. Recess football plays layer over zesting, and more “and then!” run on sentences about your day as the remaining recipe steps are checked off. A few treasured minutes later, you dust your hands on the back of your pants and zip out to join brothers and friends. 

We should have lemon pie everyday. -Jen Lucas

You lift me up. You are the encourager. It probably shouldn't work that way but I'm convinced its in your DNA. So, when I get the chance to be YOUR cheerleader, I am ready and waiting.

We've been hitting the park frequently and you only have eyes for the monkey bars. Each set at each park is different and so is your confidence level. So, here I stand, ready to catch you if you fall and all the while telling you I know you can do it. You got this. - Monica McNeill